How Do You Get Them to Put It Down and Look at You When You Talk to Them? I have heard the studies and know that dopamine is produced making us feel like we can’t live without them. How do we break the attention long enough to at least give the person right in front of us some sort of feeling like we actually care about what they are saying? This is a question that comes up in my mind time...
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Recently I experienced a moment of selfishness that created an emotion that sparked me to do something I am not particularly proud of. What I did hurt no one but me and that is unacceptable. Amends must be made, yet I am not really sure how to do them. This action also creates an opportunity to teach and be the example that I think I am. What happened was that I walked away from something that...
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Getting Too Comfortable. I know that on our coins there are three sides to the triangle: Unity, Service and Recovery. I have been told that Unity is being involved in the program by going to meetings and staying connected with a community of similar minded people with common experiences. Service is about helping others, whether it is in the rooms of a meeting or in your community around you....
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Sometimes I Stay Away out of Fear. I ran into an old friend today. I have nothing but fond memories with him. We watched our kids grow up and play soccer together for a few years. We shared road trips all over the state and some of the neighboring ones for games and tournaments. The time of my life that I was involved with this group of people was a time in my life when I was struggling pretty...
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Pause is something that comes between stimuli and response. In my past I used to react to things on an emotional and instinctual level. After a while in my program and working my steps I have noticed that the pause turns my reaction into a response. In my past a reaction usually seemed to make the situation worse. In contrast, I find the response a more calculated and less hurtful way of...
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Four years later life is very different As I look back on the last four years of my writings I can see that I have a very different approach to life. I have a hard time noticing the tough times. I know that there have been some yet I just can’t really seem to remember them. I do know that when I find myself in the midst of a tough situation that I am able to get my “self” out...
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